Wednesday, June 03, 2009

Deep thoughts with Alexandra

We had a field trip today with Alexandra's kindergarten class. I was in charge of Alexandra and another little girl. Alexandra told me that this little girl only has a daddy, she doesn't have a mommy. I tried hard today to make this little girl feel special and that I was glad to have her hang with us today. Alexandra was a little jealous of the attention I was showing this little girl. I started to talk to her about it tonight and she asked me what happened to this little girls mommy. I don't know what has happened to the mommy. I tried to explain to her that it doesn't really matter what happened, it's our job to make sure that she knows she's cared for. I started to cry and told Alexandra that it makes me sad that this girl doesn't have a mommy and I wanted to make sure she knew today that she was special. Alexandra said, why do mommies leave sometimes? What a hard question. I told her sometimes mommies and daddies decide they don't want to married anymore so they get a divorce. "What's a divorce" she said. It told her that it's when a mommy and daddy don't live together anymore so you would only get to see one of them once in a while. I told her that she didn't need to think about that happening to us cause Daddy and I weren't going to do that. I told her Daddy and I might be upset with each other or we might fight but we will stay together with her and the boys. She asked me why I was crying and I said because it's not easy when kids don't have their mommy and daddy all the time, It makes me sad. Just a hard thing to talk about with your 5 year old. Just a hard thing.

1 comment:

Coach Charlie Grimes said...

Great work Heather- Sometimes there aren't any "good" answers- but the truth is your only option. We've had this conversation from time to time, and we've reminded the girls that God can take a really tough situation and make it good-- if we trust Him and be patient.